What does unconditional love mean to you? The dictionary definition is: Not subject to conditions; Complete. As parents we are expected to feel unconditional love for our children but do our children feel loved unconditionally.
Put yourself in your child’s shoes – close your eyes and imagine how it felt as a child when you had done something that upset your mum (it’s not important what it is), now remember what your mum did or said; how did she look? Did she turn her back and walk away? Did she hit you or shouted at you? How do you feel right now? Do you feel loved?
It’s very difficult to feel loved when you are being told off, shouted at or smacked. What we need to ensure, when our children have done something we don’t like, is that we separate the deed from the child.
So it is important that they understand that you are upset at what they did and not at them. Remember to tell your child that you love them unconditionally and support this with your actions.
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