Tuesday, 30 August 2011

To obey or not to obey, that is the questions?

Have you ever wondered why your child heeds some instructions but not others? You’ve told him not to touch the oven because it’s hot and he has understood and obeys and yet you’ve told him not to play with the DVD player and he seems to ignore your instructions. 
One reason for this is the way you give the instructions, for instance when you are telling your child not to touch or do something that involves the possibility that he may get hurt, your instructions and body language are aligned.  He can see that what you say and how you say it are congruent.
With other instructions like playing with the DVD or getting all you saucepans out of your cupboard, you may be saying “no” but nodding “yes”, because maybe you think it’s cute or not really that important, so you are giving mixed messages.  It is the same when you are telling you child off because you are out in public and maybe worried about what other people might think rather that what the child is doing, so again your body language and your words do not match and consequently the child may not obey and will become confused.
I hope you are enjoying these tips and I would really love to get some feedback.  You can email me; enquiries@lorraineburwood.co.uk. 
For more information about me and my services go to www.lorraineburwood.co.uk.

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